Help with body image

[RoadRaven]

I don't hate my body, I just want something different & it's taking forever to get there. It's getting in the way of our time spent in the bedroom

Have you been there?

Hey there CC... yup, I have/am there...

For the first time in years, I am happy with my body - cycling has given me this - these last 3 years or so have seen me appreciate my fitness, regardless of how my body appears. I am fit... I am strong... I could thrash most of the women my age I know in terms of power output or aerobic endurance. I could out-walk them. I could out-bike them. I could (can) run up three flights of stairs and have caught my breath by the time they get there. If we measured our fat/muscle ratios, I would almost certainly out-muscle them.

But the changes I expected to see... the changes that women here post about - muscle definition... weight loss... where are these changes???????

I have lost 15kg since I started cycling, but to get back to a healthy size I am still about 15kg or 1 1/2 jean sizes away.

So, nope, they aint happening for me either. I don't expect to be svelte like I was when I was 17... but it would be nice to lose my tummy... for my thighs to be a little less chunky.

And yes, these un-changes to get in the way in the bedroom.They affect the way I feel sometimes, and make me feel awkward or clumsy, and sometimes unattractive, though I never get a hint of that from my partner.

So yes, my friend, CC, I have been there... I still am.