Quote Originally Posted by Violara View Post
It's gotten so that I actually quit riding, but now I think maybe I should ride alone.

...It's not fun for my DH either, since he feels like he needs to stick (somewhat) with me. He ends up trying to correct me (suggesting that I need to change gears, regulate my breathing better) which just gets me more upset.
Hey there Voilara... I so understand. This was/is me when I go for rides with my partner and sons... so I do alot of my training/riding on my own now. When I do go with my partner and/or sons, we choose a day when they are doing a recovery/slower ride, and then I tuck in behind them and just keep pace. I end up with a great workout, I ride a few kms above what I can on my own, and they end up with a low intensity ride which they were wanting. Perhaps you can come to this type of arrangemnet with your DH?

And as for your DH giving advice... that was hard for me to, but mainly because I like to get things right and I hated knowing I was not. However, once over that mental block, I have found most my biggest improvements in technique and effort ahve come from his guidance. He has ridden lots (last year his talley was over 23,000kms) so he does know what he's talking about. But with his advice has always come encouragement and praise. And thats important too...

Maybe you should get him to read this thread so he has a good understanding of how you are finding it... and there might be some ideas here that are useful to him as he continues to support you.

Please don't give up. Persevere, and you will find a way of riding which suits you, and you and him.