Quote Originally Posted by xeney View Post
Yeah, I agree with Mimi, I think you are the one who can't be just friends here. When I was single I always had mostly guy friends and my best friend was a guy. The only times it was a problem was when one of us wanted something other than friendship. Maybe you can get past that, maybe you can't, but you can't be his friend in the hope that it will turn into more: you have to be his friend for the sake of being his friend, not with some extra expectation. That isn't fair.
Yes, I think what it boils down to is that he is totally fine with just being friends but I'm not. I need to get over that or I'm the one who's going to screw up the friendship. It's just seems like such a weird thing to me.

You are totally right that it's not fair of me to expect more...I keep reminding myself of that when I get frustrated with him. It's definitely my problem that I want more...especially since he's been very sincere about what he wants and doesn't want. I always keep it to myself when I'm frustrated because I recognize it wouldn't be fair to get mad at him. He isn't doing anything wrong so getting angry with him would be totally out of line.

I just wish I could either give him a swift kick and make him like me more, or give myself a swift kick and make me like him less!!!

Oh, and yes...EVERYONE assumes we're fooling around! His family thinks we're a couple and anyone I tell that we're not a couple just can't believe it. Sigh...men!