etiquette question, sorta...

[sfa]

It's too bad people can't buy a sense of humor because some people obviously need a new one!

I could understand getting upset if the message the friend sent was itself embarrassing or compromising in some way (topless photo, complaining about a friend of yours, etc.). In that case I'd ignore it.

In your case, though, I'd have done the same thing you did. And if I had been the friend and had gotten your message, I would have poked fun back at you (along the lines of "sucks being you! I'm enjoying the sun and you're stuck in winter hell!").

About getting messages from numbers you don't know--I always ignore them, but I guess if it keeps happening I might message back with "do I know you? I think you have the wrong number."

Sarah

[OakLeaf]

lph - yeah, you didn't do anything wrong, something's apparently going on with your friend that you don't know about.

PedalWench - when it's on the holidays, it must be family, and if you don't recognize the number it's obviously not your family. Just hit reply and tell them they have a wrong number. I do that whenever I get a wrong-number message that's obviously important (medical or family) - otherwise I ignore them.

[redrhodie]

A friend of mine recently called me 3 times in a row while I was working, so I didn't answer. After the 3rd call, I got worried that something was wrong, so I called her back. She said something to me that made no sense, about being almost at the restaurant (we were not meeting). It took a minute to realize she thought she was talking to her other friend with my first name.

I teased her the next time we talked. Not only do I think it's acceptable, but required to tease your friends. If they don't take it well, tease more. Eventually, they'll either get it, or they'll stop being your friend (good riddance).

[cobalt]

Maybe something was going on at that beach! hmmmm.... that would explain the anger.

You are fine.

[Flur]

+1 on something going on at the beach. Anger does not sound like an appropriate response (unless your friend is crazy, of course). It sounds like maybe it's supposed to be a secret, and she's scared you'll tell the wrong person?

[sgtiger]

LPH, I don't think you did anything wrong. I'd have teased too and expected to get teased back.

[Irulan]

regarding the wrong number repetitive holiday calls. I would, and I do, call back letting them know they are leaving the message on a wrong number. People appreciate it - or at least everyone I have ever called back has. You might have an elderly person who can't read or dial a number well, a number written down wrong, or other genuine mistakes.

Oh, I'm talking about people who actually leave messages not just mis-dials that show up on the ID.