I have a framebuilding buddy in another country with whom I have been emailing for years. But, I started to notice, he seems to email me a lot more frequently, and with a lot more verbage, when he is having trouble with his girlfriend. It's so predictable now. She left the U.S. and moved in with him in Sept, and suddenly it got very quiet. But, sure enough, 3 months in, he's back and complaining about how he has lost his freedom. I told him to behave himself and haven't heard back.

You know, I think guys, guys who are your "friends," are often confused, especially if they are married or heavily committed. I get confused, too. Sometimes it is really nice having guys, regardless of their marital status, as your friends and nothing more. But it seems like that is a rarer thing than I thought it would be 20 years ago. I still have great guy friends, but sometimes it isn't worth it unless you've known each other so long the rules are absolutely clear and self evident.