Any ideas for a Tahoe mtb elopement/family issues

[Tuckervill]

Hi Karen - I appreciate your honesty. I don't know if this was directed at me but I feel the urge to respond. My mother and I are not close. Never have been. She was in the living room with myself and my sister when I mentioned that Geoff and I were thinking about getting married. She briefly looked up from her game of Sudoku (or however you spell it) and then started filling in more boxes. Never uttered a word.

She's always been a stone when it comes to great things in life. My sister received the same treatment when she announced she was getting married six years ago. Same for when we both bought houses, graduated college and got great jobs. No "I'm proud of you", "I'm so happy", I knew you could do it", I can't wait to visit", nothing. Same thing in high school, "Mom, I think I want to be a vet, pilot, doctor, astronaut" was received with a "You're not good enough, smart enough, etc"...

Oh and I don't think I'm too young. Never been married, no kids and I'm 33. I've just ben waiting for the best! And it certainly helps he manages his fathers bike shop!!!

It was directed to the subject matter, not you, personally. I, too, agree that people should have the wedding that pleases them, not the parents. But I also think taking into consideration the feelings of others is always called for.

Some families are so dysfunctional that a small gesture like considering the others' feelings is like spitting into the sea. It won't be recognized and it won't change anything. But at least you (generic you) would know you tried.

Karen

[vinbek]

To weigh in on the mtb side of things, I have biked at North Star. You ride the chair lifts up and your bike is on the lift behind you. The trails that we rode were very technical single track with big rocks to ride over and 90 degree off camber turns. It was fun but lots of work. Be prepared to get a few scratches. That being said, follow your gut feeling about when and where to get married. I never could please my mother and discovered a bit later in life, that all I need to do is please myself - my wedding, my memories. It will be wonderful no matter what you choose.

[cogmarks]

I have been married three times, so I have had the hometown white wedding, the courthouse, and a Las Vegas chapel wedding. The Las Vegas wedding was by far the most fun. We were by ourselves and had a great time.

I have vacationed at Lake Tahoe, and I think it is wonderful.

I wish you luck with whatever you do.

Betsy

[Zen]

If I ever get married again it will be by an Elvis impersonator (or Elvis if he's free that day) in Vegas

[sundial]

Free entertainment at the reception.