Quote Originally Posted by TrekJeni View Post
Hi Karen - I appreciate your honesty. I don't know if this was directed at me but I feel the urge to respond. My mother and I are not close. Never have been. She was in the living room with myself and my sister when I mentioned that Geoff and I were thinking about getting married. She briefly looked up from her game of Sudoku (or however you spell it) and then started filling in more boxes. Never uttered a word.

She's always been a stone when it comes to great things in life. My sister received the same treatment when she announced she was getting married six years ago. Same for when we both bought houses, graduated college and got great jobs. No "I'm proud of you", "I'm so happy", I knew you could do it", I can't wait to visit", nothing. Same thing in high school, "Mom, I think I want to be a vet, pilot, doctor, astronaut" was received with a "You're not good enough, smart enough, etc"...

Oh and I don't think I'm too young. Never been married, no kids and I'm 33. I've just ben waiting for the best! And it certainly helps he manages his fathers bike shop!!!
I agree with what Karen said, to an extent, but it doesn't sound like that applies to your situation. My mother was a lot like yours for most of my life, it's only been in the last couple of years that we've managed any kind of civility. While I understand being conscious of other's feelings, ultimately you have to do what's best for you and protect yourself, even from your family. It may seem callous but it sounds to me like you told her. If you feel that your announcement to marry Geoff needs a one-on-one conversation with your mom, then do it. But insulate yourself as best you can if she doesn't respond at all or responds negatively. That way the ball is in her court and you can go ahead with your own plans. Let your friend or family plan a reception for you upon your return so that you can celebrate with them.
Good luck,
Gray