I think you should thoroughly enjoy your Tahoe trip. If you have a wedding there or not is up to you. If you do, then have a reception back home to make the parental units happy.

Way back when... I was planning my wedding, my Mom piped up that she thought I ought to have the ceremony at my Grandmother's (in another state, where neither of us lived). I asked her if she was volunteering dearest Grandmama to do all the work, or did she want me to do all the wedding planning? I had my ceremony and reception where I wanted, and Grandmama was more than happy to fly in.

So go off, get hitched, or not. BUT there is one TE rule... we want pictures!