You've gotten some great advice here. I do have an ipod, but have a beef against Apple from a long ago problem.
Another thing to consider - I know this was a joint gift. Did you by chance pay with your credit card? Might be worth involving the card company if Apple won't give you what you want. They would probably (I'm guessing based on experience) do a charge back and let you return the device to Apple. I would think you could then order another one (assuming you still want one after all of this).
CA
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