Facebook politics question

[NbyNW]

It sounds like your relationship with your parents has evolved in the many years that you have not been in touch with this friend. I think it would probably be okay to gently bring her up to speed, in whatever way you feel comfortable.

[kermit]

It sounds like she went back to her immature days as a teenager. Its amazing the way friends grow up or don't grow up. Slamming someones parents is no way to get back into touch. I'm sorry that happened. Perhaps she was just trying to be funny, but it was insensative. Two ways to deal with it. Let her know she was out-of-line or ignore her. Whatever feels better for you. You have been out of touch way to long to let it bother you. If thats her first comments after so long then she probably is not going to become a close friend again. Just my 2 cents.

[Biciclista]

delete it!
and then remind her of the good things your mom is done.

[ASammy1]

I agree w/ Biciclista. Ignore and delete her comment but remind her of how generous your mom was when her mother was sick, but do it in a way that's not saying, IN YOUR FACE MEAN GIRL!

[indysteel]

This is one of the many reasons that I'm not on Facebook.

But that aside, I would delete it and tell her why. I would caution against inferring what her intent was or "accusing" her of anything. The truth is you don't know why she wrote what she wrote. It may have been malicious or just thoughtless. Instead, just tell her that, true as the statement may have been, it hurt your feelings and that out of both concern for your parents' feelings and your own, you took the message down. If that ends any further "friendship" via Facebook or otherwise, then so be it. Life's too short.

[Biciclista]

A couple of years ago, a woman sent me some very harsh and inflammatory (creepy) political BS and when i told her it was BS, she sicced her big brother on me. So I wrote her off.
Well, to my surprise she "friended" me on facebook. I wrote to her, suggesting that perhaps she made a mistake or did she forget all that she said.
It took a while, but she finally figured out how to unfriend me. snort.

[Cataboo]

Since we can't actually read the message - When she mentions your parents & whatever they did... is she just pretty much being factual? Or is she actually saying "Your parents were terribly mean, remember when they .... "

If she's being factual - something like "haha, remember how much trouble we got into after your parents caught us sneaking out..." then I'd just chalk it up to her trying to reminisce with you about one of the more memorable incidents or adventures that you got into together...

If it seems like the latter, I think I'd just let it go. Delete it if you like, but if she's actually saying something negative or calling them a name, then you can email her about it after deleting it.

[lph]

Heh - I had an experience similar to Biciclista. Part of my job is issuing (balanced, impartial, well thought-out...) permits for hydropower plants, and we can get stuck in the crossfire between the hydropower companies and local environmental groups. During the hearing process one woman sent me an impassioned plea by email to "save" her local river. But next thing I knew she wanted to friend me on Facebook, to a group dedicated to saving this river...

I had to point out that I could hardly be expected to do my job and be impartial on this case if I were on a list dedicated to the one side's point of view. And that maybe she should look closer at her email list before issuing blanket invitations like that.

Facebook brings up strange situations. And it's notoriously hard to judge what people mean from just a stray, written comment.