Last thing on my mind before or after events is sex. I just want to focus and save energy (not that sex has to always be particularly energetic....), and afterwards just tune out and relax totally and not have to cater to someone else's sex drive. (maybe I'm just too self centred)

I've read that women need to not think during sex and the sex will be better. am I the only one who's busy and often running through what I need to do / get done and find it hard to switch off?

Overall though, I've yet to make up my mind on the debate of whether or not cycling is better than sex.....