Losing a friend

[Tuckervill]

I'm sorry to hear about your loss, Amanda. Remember that even though you are feeling your own pain, your mother needs you now more than ever.

Karen

[sbctwin]

{{{{Amanda}}}} Sorry for your loss. She may have been closer to your mom, but you had a connection with her. Two weeks ago, an elderly gentlemen from church died. He was 83 and I only knew him from church, but he would always come up to me after mass and ask me about my adventures on my bike. He was always so encouraging. I was very sad at his passing. I went to his funeral because he always was so encouraging to me in just a 5 minute casual conversation once a week.

[tulip]

(((Aggie Ama))) Like everyone else says, allow yourself a good cry. I'm going to a funeral tomorrow for a 98-year old man whom I met only twice. He was sharp as a knife when I last saw him a year ago. My SO was a good friend of his, however, and I know it's important for me to be there. Be with your mom if you can.

[Aggie_Ama]

Thanks for the support ladies. On the way home from work my phone rang, it was my mom. Mom and I are extremely close and she "needed her best friend". We talked and laughed, I think it helped her but it really helped me too. At first I didn't know what to say but then you know how it is with your friends, it just falls into place. She told me this was actually sudden, although she had schleraderma (I am just spelling phoenetically) she wasn't sick Saturday. It came on and by the time her husband rushed her to the ER she was gone. No warning, just gone.

Mom and I laughed about some of the craziest memories of Sheesh. She was a caring person, the life of the party and your biggest cheerleader even when you didn't think deserved one. I told her I felt sad and I didn't feel like I should. That I was so mad at my giggling co-workers all day because didn't they understand there were so many things out there and real life other than the weekend they had. Funny thing is she got mad at her own boss for not realizing she had lost a very close friend and being pretty intense with her today. Sheesh had also been a co-worker at one point and mom said she wanted to yell "but she was also one of my best friends!!" We laughed about how sometimes you can't just toughen the f up.

So in true fashion of our friend there will be a party for her, not a somber burial. And I will be there for mom, Dad and Sheesh's husband whom I adore as well. Plus her equally nutty brothers who I am sure miss their sister so much right now.

Sundial- I told my mom the quote from your signature, it was true to our friend. Thank you for keeping it there and I hope you don't mind that I shared it, my mom found great comfort in it.

[spindizzy]

Aggie Ama:

People touch our lives in ways we don't expect. You might not know why right now, but she touched you in a way that you hadn't realized. You may also be grieving for your mom. ((((Aggie Ama))))