Lost a mechanic (long post)

[Pax]

don't give this cretin that kind of power over you. That is a choice you know. If you ran into him again, stand straight up and tall, look him in the eye with a look that says, "I know your gig and you KNOW what will happen if you so much as bat an eyelash at me".

I would do the same thing, and have, I just wish we weren't raised to be so nice all the time, to be the ones who try to make everyone comfortable and happy...it makes it so hard to do a 180 and get a little fierce.

[vinbek]

Don't give your power away to this guy. Go into every shop you want with all the confidence in the world. You should not change anything that you do. He is the one that needs to change the behavior. And if he doesn't, someone needs to inform his wife....

[Aggie_Ama]

I am proud of you Fuji (or Trekchants ). You had no reason to be ashamed but I think that is such a normal reaction for this type of violation.

Hold your head high, try to find a new shop if you feel more comfortable. Just do what you want and don't let the Sleeze take away the confidence you seem to have. He is a jerk, not you.

[Biciclista]

and if this guy gets fired for inappropriate sexual overtures, do you think another bike shop is going to hire him?
can we have recommendations? oh yeah, him?

[SadieKate]

The other shop would have to know the reason for the firing and most HR depts will only confirm employment dates.

[Biciclista]

The other shop would have to know the reason for the firing and most HR depts will only confirm employment dates.

most employers ask for recommendations and references.

[SadieKate]

But the fired employee is the one who provides the recommendations and references. You think he is going to use the shop that fired him?

Any shop that he applies to would have to read between the lines and ask why he doesn't provide a recommendation from the shop he was just working for. I'm not an HR professional but I've taken university extension classes as a manager.

And with no legal action against the guy? The previous employer can't say a word.

Irulan has it absolutely right.

don't give this cretin that kind of power over you. That is a choice you know. If you ran into him again, stand straight up and tall, look him in the eye with a look that says, "I know your gig and you KNOW what will happen if you so much as bat an eyelash at me".

[maillotpois]

most employers ask for recommendations and references.

Oh no way. They call, you say "Yes, X worked here from ___ to ____." That's IT. Otherwise you face exposure for libel, etc. No HR department will officially say a WORD. Word of mouth shop to shop maybe, but an HR department generally won't even say the person was FIRED.

They ask for recommendations - and if you get them, great. If you get only dates, that's a red flag. But I've been told many times not even to say good things about people - fears of reliance on that and disappointment in the person recommended, etc. Tis a most litigious age. And yes, I profit from that, generally.

At least you dealt with it - and good work, Bluetree!