Lost a mechanic (long post)

[sundial]

Well, I guess I'm an old fashioned southern gal but I still feel that having her boyfriend there will help. I don't feel that having a man present weakens the testimony. If anything, it will strengthen her case.

[Irulan]

Well, I guess I'm an old fashioned southern gal but I still feel that having her boyfriend there will help. I don't feel that having a man present weakens the testimony. If anything, it will strengthen her case.

How does it strengthen her case?

I think the opposite, bring BF with speaks volumes: I'm too intimidated to do this own my own so I brought my boyfriend with me to provide intimidating glares".

[Bluetree]

Fuji...

PM me the name of the store and the mechanic. I know some LBS owners/managers in the area and may be able to help.

No one should have to deal with that (with ANY kind of business) and the owner/manager should know about it.

EDIT: BTW, if that had happened to me I wouldn't avoid him or the shop. I'd give that guy (and the LBS) a piece of my mind and it would be loud enough so everyone within a 10-block radius would hear about it. Not only would I make it clear how intolerable that behavior is, I would make sure every female rider in every single Los Angeles cycling/triathlon club knew about it. Then I would then threaten to organize a boycott of the store if I didn't get a suitable response from ownership.

But that's just me.

[Irulan]

Fuji...


EDIT: BTW, if that had happened to me I wouldn't avoid him or the shop. I'd give that guy (and the LBS) a piece of my mind and it would be loud enough so everyone within a 10-block radius would hear about it. Not only would I make it clear how intolerable that behavior is, I would make sure every female rider in every single Los Angeles cycling/triathlon club knew about it. Then I would then threaten to organize a boycott of the store if I didn't get a suitable response from ownership.

But that's just me.

With or without your bf ?<gdr....>
Best answer yet.

[Bluetree]

I have a "no tolerance" personal policy when it comes to behavior like this. I don't make excuses for a guy's bad behavior ("poor guy, he musta had a bad day") nor do I think anyone needs to "prove" their worthiness or their word by bringing back-up. That mechanic screwed up, royally, and you are not the one who should pay for his actions by being inconvenienced or made to feel bad.

Embrace your power, girl, both as a person and as a paying customer.

[kfergos]

I'm inclined to agree with Bluetree, although in all honesty I don't know how I'd deal with that if it happened to me. Certainly I'd go to the manager, and I think the suggestion of a written complaint is good just for the record.

Anyhow, I'm sorry you got stuck in this nasty position, and I hope you can find a good new LBS & mechanic in the future.

[Irulan]

It might be a good opportunity to learn to work on your own bikes.

[Pax]

I have a "no tolerance" personal policy when it comes to behavior like this. I don't make excuses for a guy's bad behavior ("poor guy, he musta had a bad day") nor do I think anyone needs to "prove" their worthiness or their word by bringing back-up. That mechanic screwed up, royally, and you are not the one who should pay for his actions by being inconvenienced or made to feel bad.

Embrace your power, girl, both as a person and as a paying customer.

Right ON sister!

[vinbek]

If I were the owner or manager of this shop, I would want to know if I had jerks for employees. I wouldn't want someone running my customers off.
I would talk with the owner of the shop and let him know what happened and how you don't want to use his shop anymore. It can only be a win-win.
They either talk to this guy and get his behavior corrected or fire him for harrassment. I feel sorry for the wife....I wouldn't be embarrassed. I would be angry.

[withm]

Actually it was way more than an "invasion of personal space." If the guy so much as touched her it could easily be construed as "offensive touching" if not downright assault. You have to follow up on this one.

[Velobambina]

Actually it was way more than an "invasion of personal space." If the guy so much as touched her it could easily be construed as "offensive touching" if not downright assault. You have to follow up on this one.

Agree wholeheartedly. You said no and he ignored you. There's something wrong w/this man.

I'm sorry this happened to you. Don't blame yourself. Do what makes you feel comfortable (boyfriend coming w/you or not---that's your decision and I'm confident that we all support you whatever you decide). I think it takes much courage to report this jerk. I've been there, as have many of us, I suspect. I figure that if he did it to you, he probably will do/has done it to someone else.

Sending lots of good karma your way.