I agree the boyfriend doesn't need to be there. A reasonable manager should take your word for it. Do it in person, not over the phone. Bringing in your boyfriend as your boyfriend weakens your stance as a paying customer, male or female.
However, there is value in having the boyfriend there to say "if you don't fix this you will lose 2 customers." Be sure he doesn't say or demonstrate any flexed male muscles and ego.
And both of you should say that you will be sure the word is passed along to all friends that there is a mechanic there whose behavior cannot be trusted outside the store.
So what if he is a besotted idiot and how would anyone know if he does this to other women unless the manager is notified? I'd sure be questioning whether battery has occurred.
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09-22-2008, 08:57 AM #1
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09-22-2008, 09:13 AM #2
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I didn't say, or mean, that the manager should not be notified. He (or she) should be notified - if fujichants wants to - but I was questioning the responses that thought this guy would do this again or has done so to others. I found it hard to tell from the story.
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09-22-2008, 09:27 AM #3
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Well, I guess I'm an old fashioned southern gal but I still feel that having her boyfriend there will help. I don't feel that having a man present weakens the testimony. If anything, it will strengthen her case.
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09-22-2008, 10:13 AM #4
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How does it strengthen her case?
Originally Posted by sundial
I think the opposite, bring BF with speaks volumes: I'm too intimidated to do this own my own so I brought my boyfriend with me to provide intimidating glares".Last edited by Irulan; 09-22-2008 at 10:40 AM.
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09-22-2008, 10:20 AM #5
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Fuji...
PM me the name of the store and the mechanic. I know some LBS owners/managers in the area and may be able to help.
No one should have to deal with that (with ANY kind of business) and the owner/manager should know about it.
EDIT: BTW, if that had happened to me I wouldn't avoid him or the shop. I'd give that guy (and the LBS) a piece of my mind and it would be loud enough so everyone within a 10-block radius would hear about it. Not only would I make it clear how intolerable that behavior is, I would make sure every female rider in every single Los Angeles cycling/triathlon club knew about it. Then I would then threaten to organize a boycott of the store if I didn't get a suitable response from ownership.
But that's just me.
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09-22-2008, 11:13 AM #6
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Originally Posted by Bluetree
Fuji...
EDIT: BTW, if that had happened to me I wouldn't avoid him or the shop. I'd give that guy (and the LBS) a piece of my mind and it would be loud enough so everyone within a 10-block radius would hear about it. Not only would I make it clear how intolerable that behavior is, I would make sure every female rider in every single Los Angeles cycling/triathlon club knew about it. Then I would then threaten to organize a boycott of the store if I didn't get a suitable response from ownership.
But that's just me.
With or without your bf ?<gdr....>
Best answer yet.
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09-22-2008, 11:21 AM #7
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I have a "no tolerance" personal policy when it comes to behavior like this. I don't make excuses for a guy's bad behavior ("poor guy, he musta had a bad day") nor do I think anyone needs to "prove" their worthiness or their word by bringing back-up. That mechanic screwed up, royally, and you are not the one who should pay for his actions by being inconvenienced or made to feel bad.
Embrace your power, girl, both as a person and as a paying customer.Last edited by Bluetree; 09-22-2008 at 11:23 AM. Reason: typo
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09-22-2008, 02:26 PM #8
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Actually it was way more than an "invasion of personal space." If the guy so much as touched her it could easily be construed as "offensive touching" if not downright assault. You have to follow up on this one.
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09-23-2008, 01:29 AM #9
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Agree wholeheartedly. You said no and he ignored you. There's something wrong w/this man. Originally Posted by withm
I'm sorry this happened to you. Don't blame yourself. Do what makes you feel comfortable (boyfriend coming w/you or not---that's your decision and I'm confident that we all support you whatever you decide). I think it takes much courage to report this jerk. I've been there, as have many of us, I suspect. I figure that if he did it to you, he probably will do/has done it to someone else.
Sending lots of good karma your way.
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