Remembering parent's life

[polly4711]

How ironic that this came around today. My significant other's grandmother (whom he was very very close with) died today. Her husband wont know that she's gone due to Alzheimers. He and I are in two different cities, and the weekend that he was about to visit is the weekend of her Memorial Service. I wish I could go out there to support him, but as a poor master's student, it's not possible. Shootingstar or anyone who has lost someone close, what are things that your loved one do for you that helped you heal?

Death is such a weird thing for me. My parents are getting there too.... I don't want to become an orphan.

[wildhawk]

Eventhough you can’t be there with him during this difficult time, you will be there for him afterwards. The grieving process takes time and has its ebbs and flows. Sometimes you want to cry, sometimes you feel angry, sometimes lost, but the worst thing is to be ignored. I have lost most of my immediate family over the years and I can tell you that the best thing I received was normalcy from my friends and family - no stepping on eggshells and fumbling for words. Alot of people do not know what to say so they stay away from you during those tough times. I was fortunate to have loving friends who kept me occupied during the tough months afterwards and most importantly, they listened to me and gave me space when I needed it. They allowed me time to grieve, and did not set any time limits on when I should get “on with life”. Some people never really get through the grieving process, but they learn to cope with the loss and move forward. He knows you are there for him - and ready to listen when he needs to talk about the loss.

[shootingstar]

How ironic that this came around today. My significant other's grandmother (whom he was very very close with) died today. Her husband wont know that she's gone due to Alzheimers. He and I are in two different cities, and the weekend that he was about to visit is the weekend of her Memorial Service. I wish I could go out there to support him, but as a poor master's student, it's not possible. Shootingstar or anyone who has lost someone close, what are things that your loved one do for you that helped you heal?

Death is such a weird thing for me. My parents are getting there too.... I don't want to become an orphan.

I'm sorry for the loss of your BF's/hubby's loved one. And so sad about the widower. He will be confused eventually when he finds out. Did you know his grandmother much at all? Maybe you'll find an answer for yourself after reading some of these stories and memories here.

We're just going through this, just reflecting much on her. He of course, has various additional tasks he must undertake as her executor/power of attorney.

HOw old are your parents? Are they in good health?

For myself I dread the day when each of my parents die (father in good health, my mother less so)...so the best thing I can do now, is to work out angst issues with each of them, and appreciate best parts of them now.