I've skimmed these posts noting it's the same "are they uppity or not?" argument ... ah, perceptions!!!

Let me at least suggest that assuming that somebody is thinking uppity thoughts is every bit as judgmental as what the other party is being accused of.... and ... it seems to me it's built-in self-negativity... which shouldn't be blamed on others.

Now, my perception's tinged by dealing with a student or two today who have a pervasive habit of perceiving *everything* as a negative view of them, ... but even if it's true, then, the best revenge is *not* to let it bug you!