what to do...???

[BethG]

I think all you can do is be there for her - call her lots - let her know you're thinking about her.

Agreed - and share stories, too. I know when I've lost furry ones (my cats Spot and Skeezix, my beloved keeshond Griffin), it helped to be able to talk about them with people who understood. I'd usually wind up crying, but it was cathartic.

It's especially helpful to be able to talk with someone else who either knew/loved the kitty or at least gets it and won't say stupid crud like "it's just a cat."

Hugs to you and your Mom!