Nope, you don't want the Xenon jacket. I have it, and was a bit disappointed. It's brilliant red and looks really fast and stylish, but it has no pit zips, gets quite clammy but is still only windproof. The Phantom jacket is the one piece of bike clothing I've been most happy with, and I haven't even bought a real waterproof until now. Granted - I have got soaked a few times, especially as the water-resistance wore off. But new it was an excellent jacket and when it wears out I'll be looking for another softshell as my main winter item.

Gloves: the SixSixOne gloves I just bought on an off-chance, and they turned out to be cheap and just warm enough but quite breathable, so I got another pair. When I switch to the lobster gloves I sure am warm enough, but they're a bit sloppy and feel bulky. Not too pleased about them but they do do the job. In fact they do best when it's really cold so that I don't sweat in them at all.

Winter shoes: I rode several winters with my standard mtb shoes and shoe covers. Warm enough mostly, but a hassle to put on. I've also ridden with hiking boots but prefer to be clipped in. I came across some Shimano winter shoes on sale and picked them up but I don't know the model. The best thing is the high cuff and that they're quite stiff so that my toes don't get squished. And they lessen the wear on my regular shoes so I figure the net cost is the same.

I agree that you want good lighting!

I don't use any eyewear except sunglasses on very bright days, but I'm funny like that. I wear contacts, that may be a factor. When it starts getting cold out I'll rub a little vaseline or the like on exposed skin before I go out, especially under my eyes, it helps against the windchill.