Poor puppy! Initially, there will be some soreness until things toughen up a bit (I'm not talking big callouses, but it does tend to get better). What kind of shorts are you riding in? A good pair of padded shorts can do wonders.

We're all different down there. I cannot stand a wide saddle and tend to ride narrow leather saddles (not specific to anything, just the old fashioned kind). In the beginning, they take a week or so to break in, but then they're really nice.

Also, look at the tilt of your saddle. If the nose tilts up, you might be putting undue pressure down there. Ditto if your handlebars are too low - you might be putting a lot of weight in those sensitive areas.

Desitin (the baby butt product) is great post-ride. It is healing and slightly numbing.