?(s) for women with short hair

[OakLeaf]

My hair isn't that short, but it's above the earlobes. It's also very thick, so I don't get mistaken for a guy. What is funny is that DH has long hair. It's very, very rare to see a woman with short hair partnered with a man with long hair.

ETA: I consider "waiter" and "actor" to be more respectful than "waitress" or "actress." That's why I make an effort not to use the latter terms. (Consider the obviously derogatory, and now obsolete, "poetess.") I absolutely do NOT use a "generic masculine" (everyone/he, e.g.). I don't necessarily think that "dudette" is more appropriate or respectful than "dude," either! One problem I do admit to is that I often talk about animals in the masculine when I don't know their sex. I'm trying to get better about that but it would mean just going 50-50 at random, since I don't like to apply the neuter to beings that have consciousness.