?(s) for women with short hair

**Andrea** · 08-05-2008, 01:17 PM

How short is your hair?
Do you ever get mistaken for a guy?

My hair is shaved with a #5 guard on the clippers (it was buzzed shorter, but now I'm keeping it about this length), and I don't think that I've got masculine features, although all the "mistakes" have been from someone looking at me from the front- In the last month, I've been called "sir" a couple of times (once at airport security, once at Target cash register), and when my man and I sat down to eat a few days ago, the bartender greeted us as "gentlemen."

It doesn't bother me at all... I'm actually pretty amused by people's reactions when they realize I'm not a guy, and I assure them that it happens often enough that I've learned to answer to it.

Anyone else?

**Eden** · 08-05-2008, 01:20 PM

My hair isn't really all that short, but I've been mistaken for a boy before....

I did just see your photo over on the tan line thread... you have some rather unmanly assets.... were you wearing a big bulky sweater or something

**Andrea** · 08-05-2008, 01:26 PM

Originally Posted by Eden

My hair isn't really all that short, but I've been mistaken for a boy before....

I did just see your photo over on the tan line thread... you have some rather unmanly assets.... were you wearing a big bulky sweater or something

hehehe... think along the lines of the tooth fairy and the easter bunny...

I think they're a big part of what clues people in on my gender

At least I know if a guy calls me "sir" that he wasn't staring at my boobs!

**Blueberry** · 08-05-2008, 01:31 PM

My hair is short, but not that short (pixie-ish). I've been called "sir" from the back, but not from the front. I just turn around, and ask whether they're talking to me. It is kinda funny - especially since I really don't look like a guy - at all

At least I don't think so.

CA

**GLC1968** · 08-05-2008, 01:32 PM

I have very short hair now...and I used to have super short hair (pixie cut). No one has ever mistaken me for a guy. I don't know why though as I rarely wear makeup and I'm usually dressed like a slob.

I'm pretty short though, so I'd be an out of the normal guy. And I'm way too big/curvy to be a boy, so maybe that's why?

H asked me not to go with the pixie cut again. He said it looked cute, but in the dark, it felt too manly.

Does that count?

**smilingcat** · 08-05-2008, 01:33 PM

well at a starbucks near my office, there is a Barista who querries all customers, men and women with "sir, what would you like?" It suprised me the first time around. and I've heard girls addressing one another with "dude!"

And I see more waiter (less frequent usage of waitress)
more actor (less frequent usage of actress)
what else???

I guess we are becoming invisible?

**BleeckerSt_Girl** · 08-05-2008, 05:06 PM

This older thread relates to lots of the same issues:
http://forums.teamestrogen.com/showt...light=mistaken

**OakLeaf** · 08-05-2008, 05:18 PM

My hair isn't that short, but it's above the earlobes. It's also very thick, so I don't get mistaken for a guy. What is funny is that DH has long hair. It's very, very rare to see a woman with short hair partnered with a man with long hair.

ETA: I consider "waiter" and "actor" to be more respectful than "waitress" or "actress." That's why I make an effort not to use the latter terms. (Consider the obviously derogatory, and now obsolete, "poetess.") I absolutely do NOT use a "generic masculine" (everyone/he, e.g.). I don't necessarily think that "dudette" is more appropriate or respectful than "dude," either! One problem I do admit to is that I often talk about animals in the masculine when I don't know their sex. I'm trying to get better about that

but it would mean just going 50-50 at random, since I don't like to apply the neuter to beings that have consciousness.

**Sgritn** · 08-05-2008, 05:27 PM

No, not anymore..I started on a journey two years ago to grow my hair as long as possible, no heat, chemicals, perms or straighteners...bra strap length now. I enjoy the length but no one really evers sees it..I wear short wigs, buns, braids, {under my helmet a wig cap} most times to protect my hair from snags, snaps and breakage. Guess once my body is in cyclist's shape I may be mistaken for some dude or other

..hope I'll be able to laugh it off!

**Chicken Little** · 08-05-2008, 06:16 PM

I get it all the time- my hair is short, and I am starting to wonder why I just don't #5 it anyway, since it doesn't seem to matter.

I want a #5 cut, it's cool and simple, and I have a helmet on all the time anyway.

I am cutting my hair.

**Tuckervill** · 08-05-2008, 06:35 PM

I was 16, in a Western Sizzlin', wearing my Dorothy Hamill haircut, holding hands with my boyfriend, when the cashier said, "And for you, sir?" I already had my C cups!

I've rarely worn my hair short since.

Karen

**Chicken Little** · 08-05-2008, 06:47 PM

As a purely esoteric question, I wonder why being mistaken for another gender is, well, uncomfortable. What is that? I want a #5 cut, but don't really want to be mistaken for a guy, either. Are we all primarily defined by our gender?
My head is spinning.

I think I want to smoke a pipe.

I am in big trouble.

**KnottedYet** · 08-05-2008, 06:54 PM

I get called "sir" all the time. Even while wearing pink shirts and big earrings and my "assets" clearly displayed and my kid hanging off my arm saying: Mom Mom Mom can I get that? MOm MOM! Long hair, short hair.... "sir." I have a huge butt, big boobs, wear make-up almost all the time, earrings, nosering, usually feminine clothes, but once or twice a month I get called sir.
(a couple months ago someone assumed I was my son's older brother)

But when my hair was an inch long, no-one called me sir.

Go figure!

**Blueberry** · 08-05-2008, 06:55 PM

Originally Posted by OakLeaf

What is funny is that DH has long hair. It's very, very rare to see a woman with short hair partnered with a man with long hair.

My hair is, at its longest, about 2". My DH has hair down to the small of his back. Guess we're in the same unusual boat

CA

**Andrea** · 08-05-2008, 07:05 PM

Originally Posted by Chicken Little

As a purely esoteric question, I wonder why being mistaken for another gender is, well, uncomfortable. What is that? I want a #5 cut, but don't really want to be mistaken for a guy, either. Are we all primarily defined by our gender?
My head is spinning.

I think I want to smoke a pipe.

I am in big trouble.

GO for it. I was in the same boat as you- already pretty short, and just got tired of the whole "going to get my hair cut" process. The first time, I went almost all-out (off) with a #3 guard. Now I just hit it with a #5 every couple of weeks, and it's perfect!

I'm not uncomfortable with being mistaken for another gender... I guess because I don't feel (like you said) defined by my gender. Glad you brought that up!

I'd like to smoke a pipe right now as well

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