All those things that Squirrel said are great advice. The only thing I would add is to make sure you're sitting far enough back on your saddle. If you're too far forward, the soft tissues will be squished. A Selle Italia Ldy should have a cutout, right? I had terry Butterfly Tri Gel Ti and it has a cutout too. The cutout thing didn't work for me, but some people love it. You may just have to try a bunch of saddles before you find the right one for you.