I have three sons. I am not above walking into a men's room or locker room to retrieve them. I have many times stood at the door with the door open, but just out of line of sight, and called to them. When I get no reply, I go in, with a loud warning "female, coming in!" Most times when I've done this, any man in the room would speak up, or the kids would holler or come out, or I would ask the guy coming out if he saw any kids.

I've never had to check every stall for my kid, but I'd do it if I thought it was necessary. A man can complain if he wants, but I don't care.

Men do expose themselves on purpose to kids in pubic men's rooms. It has happened to two of my kids. The only reason I know about this is because my kids knew it was wrong and told me about it. Both times, they told me in the car later, or I would have jerked a not in his thing if I had known who he was.

Karen