I think I left out the part where I next said, "STOP!" There was a pause after I yelled car up and before I said it. That sounds convenient at this point, but I really did yell stop, because my husband was just a few lengths behind me and I was thinking of him first. It was his first group ride ever, and I didn't want him to get hurt by running into me or going across the bridge. There was a gap between him and the bigger group, too.

T still doesn't know that R is disabled, as far as I know. She got in the car and left.

I have all the compassion in the world for people who need assistance or accommodation that I don't need. I think telling others that you have a vision impairment on a group ride is a safe and sane thing to do. I have a friend who is deaf in one ear, so she asks people to speak to her on the other side. What's the problem with that?

The other thing is, on a group ride, I will never substitute someone else's judgment of safety for my own. I don't cross streets until I see it's clear, no matter how many other people yell it. All that to say, T should have been paying attention. But shouldn't she be allowed to know all the factors she should be paying attention to?

Thanks for your thoughts, everyone. Your input helped me clarify my own.

Karen