That's pretty sad that you trust a friend, but their children would take advantage of the situation. I don't think it's necessarilly turning a blind eye, but I just think the cops don't want to ruin these kids futures. I can't tell you how many times my cousins were at parties that got busted when they were in high school. The cops are there to put a scare in them and hopefully get there before they've had too much to drink and try to drive home. This is a time when they're applying to colleges and getting ready for the future, and an arrest would severly hurt their chances at getting into the school they want. Now once you get to college, it's another story. You're considered an adult, and the cops aren't afraid to arrest you (at least they weren't at my school). Send a message, make sure no one gets hurt, that's the priority, IMHO. Still doesn't help the victims feel any better