Dealing with a workplace bully!!! Long post.

[tc1]

He is creating a hostile work environment. The best thing you can do is to write down and organize what he is doing that is harassment. Calling you at 3 AM is, depending on your job function, harassment. (I am expected to take emergency calls from our group 24/7) Yelling and verbally harassing a worker is harassment. It doesn't have to be you that he is yelling at. Nodding off in front of his computer is something that can be witnessed. Document document document, but in an above-board way. Don't take a picture of him sleeping, we are having a big fight about this at my job right now.

Do you know your company's policies and tolerance re suspected drug use? Maybe a bug in the right person's ear could make this real easy. Mood changes and nodding off and a personality change are kinda fishy.

His making personal calls and shopping and conscience-free personal life are not your business and don't make them your business. If you base any of your complaint on these things you will be the one that gets burned, and he will accuse you of harassing him about his personal life.

Once you have organized your thoughts about his specific actions, go to HR or whoever is in charge of these things. Let them know what specific actions he is doing. Tell them your next step is to research the federal statues re hostile work environment.

[Running Mommy]

Simple... take all of this to HR in writing, and state IN WRITING that if the environment does not change you will take this to the local labor board, or contact an attorney.

I was an HR girl for a bit back in the day. They HAVE to take you seriously. The financial consequences are dire if they don't- and they know that.

[TahoeDirtGirl]

It almost sounded like he reported to you in that he called you at 3 a.m. to say he wasn't going to be in?

Or does he report to your mom? I'm confused.

There are many ways to handle this...and being a manager as well as having been bullied before, there is:

ignore

do something

leave


You can ignore him, and when he acts up, just repeat some phrase that you memorize. Mine was "knock it off" or "that's disrespectful". You just repeat it over and over and pretty soon they just wander off.

Then you could do something, which is either document everything like someone else said, for a little while and then march into HR with all of your achievements that you have brought to the company and lay the situation on the table. Either they need to deal with him or you will continue to bring it to someone's attention. Not sure how many heads are above the heads you are going over, but sometimes that works.

Then there is just leave. I haven't done that one yet. But I almost did. If you are prepared to do the 'something' be prepared to do the 'leaving' as well.

But most of the time I go to the 'ignore' function. I just give them the key phrase and wander off. I don't give them much more than that.