Yikes! 
Sorry, I don't have any advice for you, I think someone experienced in a similar situation or solving problems like this is needed, but I can't help thinking - this guy needs help before he wrecks his entire life and that of his kids too.
Winter riding is much less about badassery and much more about bundle-uppery. - malkin
1995 Kona Cinder Cone commuterFrankenbike/Selle Italia SLR Lady Gel Flow
2008 white Nakamura Summit Custom mtb/Terry Falcon X
2000 Schwinn Fastback Comp road bike/Specialized Jett