To all moms

[Irulan]

I"m thinking that you need to put the guilty feelings aside, and do something for yourself. It's fairly common in divorce situations for parents to be ravaged by guilt, and to let that be their guide for their dealing with thier kids. It's a better example if you take care of yourself physically and mentally than if you let your self be manipulated by overwhelming guilt. Kids are notorious for exploiting this, too.

IMO, ( mother of two) 11 is plenty old enough to stay alone for an hour or two. Or, see if there's a way to incorporate cycling into your time together: Rides to places she would enjoy, bribery if necessary. Explore your neighborhood riding options, maybe you dont' have to drive 10 miles for a ride. I thought the beauty of a bike is that you can head out your front door.

just my 2¢, take it or leave it.

irulan