not sure what you mean about your husband wants to re-route you home.

I agree that you have to act like an ambassador.
As you get used to your commute you will find the best route.
I work in the industrial part of town, but I can avoid some of the busiest streets by riding on side streets and going through the plant (private property speed limit of 15mph)
Yesterday coming home from an errand I was following my husband who got in the left turn lane so i followed him, unfortunately there were two lanes to get through, and in the same instant, i encountered a jerk in the lane behind me who cursed because i was not quick enough changing lanes, and a nice person in the next lane over who stopped and waited so i could cross their lane and get into the turn lane.
Just as in driving a car you will meet jerks and kind people; the only difference is now you are more at their mercy.