You wrote: First saddle problem was pressure on sit bones. Now we've fixed that with new saddle - it's a separating and pressure on the nose end of the saddle.

Pressure on the sit bones is normal and kind of what you look for when you are just starting out. The ONLY acceptable sorness in that area is the sit bones. Is the new seat softer? That would allow your sit bones to sink in and cause smashing of other bits.

I have read that you can sometimes reduce hand pressure by moving the seat back, rather than forward, because you are actually looking for the perfect triangle for your particular body.

I'm with the rest of them that advise you to go find someone who will do a good fit. Maybe contact a local bike club and see if they have suggestions.

Barbara