Why am I still in academia?

[Melalvai]

Well, it does seem like he is making this more difficult than it has to be, although you know getting your work published is win win for both of you, so the conditions don't seem too unreasonable to me.

Exactly, I need that paper way more than he does, so why does he have to say "I won't sign the letter until your paper is submitted"? He'll get that paper because I have to have it. Linking in to the letter made me tempted to submit it without giving the other authors adequate time to review it.

While I transferred my NIH grant, I arranged to leave enough money behind to pay for her stipend and supplies. All of this was carefully drawn up in agreements between my new and old institution.

That is something in fact which he adamantly refused, I don't need much money (relative to how much he has in grants, which is a number I am familiar with), and it would have made things lots smoother for me.

But my advice to you is still to stop being angry, cuz anger doesn't get you anything.

Well, this is my place to vent. I'm not mouthing off everywhere. There are many, many responses to his pettiness that I'm not giving into because I'm above that. I don't care about burning bridges or whatever, cause I think it's hopeless.

I wish I could just stop being angry at will. Eventually he'll be out of my life and I'll forget about it. It's been a rough 6 weeks, and I've got another 3 to go.