Well, it does seem like he is making this more difficult than it has to be, although you know getting your work published is win win for both of you, so the conditions don't seem too unreasonable to me.

Maybe I am less sympathetic because I have been in his shoes, however I have to tell you I treated my people much better when I changed institutions. I had one student that needed another year to finish, but didn't want to relocate since her husband was also in school. I found a colleague willing to house her in his lab (who happened to be her husband's advisor), and I continued to advise her, but at a distance. The dept. agreed to move the university purchased equipment that was staying behind to his lab for her to use. I then 'loaned' her unique equipment she needed that was officially transferring to my new institution, with the understanding she would ship it to me when her work was finishhed. While I transferred my NIH grant, I arranged to leave enough money behind to pay for her stipend and supplies. All of this was carefully drawn up in agreements between my new and old institution. In fact, the old institution made it hard, because since we set up her support as a sub-contract, but then they wanted me to pay them overhead on it, which meant double overhead which I couldn't afford. So, my old dept. chair had to negotiate that part down. I flew back for the defense, she still graduated as 'my student' and it was win win for everyone.

But my advice to you is still to stop being angry, cuz anger doesn't get you anything. Do what you have to do to get your work done, and then think hard about what you need to do to move on to a more independent position which will carry more autonomy and less vulnerability. By channeling your anger, energy, what have you, into productive endeavors like doing good science, publishing your work, and building a strong CV, you put yourself in the strongest possible position. This is how I have always operated my career. I have had my share of A-holes, as has my husband, but by focusing always on our scientific productivity, doing significant work and publishing in top journals, we have been able to have very successful and satisfying careers in academic science.