shootingstar, sounds like you have the same metabolic problem that I have. Your body doesn't break down the alcohol properly .This is genetic and extremely common in Asian people, I am 100% Italian (of all things) but i have it too!
Drinking alcohol never made me feel good, it just made me feel bad. So at a certain point I just quit drinking. There was no point to it, and I certainly wasn't going to drink to make OTHERS feel good.