What the LBS guy did was not to bend the stays back to their original place, but to pull them apart and put the wheel in. So you'll have to pull them apart like that every time you take the wheel in and out. It can be done, but it's a PITA. You can have a framemaker cold-set it back to it's original position, and check the alignment and dropout faces. If you otherwise like the bike and can get the seller or shipper to pay for this, it would be the way to go.
Oil is good, grease is better.
2007 Peter Mooney w/S&S couplers/Terry Butterfly
1993 Bridgestone MB-3/Avocet O2 Air 40W
1980 Columbus Frame with 1970 Campy parts
1954 Raleigh 3-speed/Brooks B72