Redrhodie, I know my friends made it a point to invite me to ride. Other friends made it a point just to check on me (phone calls, emails, lunch, etc). Even though I felt my world was falling apart last summer there was a big part of me that knew I was going to be okay. I had come through my surgery, had healed quickly, had a great circle of friends, a very supportive family and a wonderful counselor. The initial days following his departure were the worse - lots of tears, lots of "what did I do wrong?", lots of "how could he?", lots of "what next?" I had really good days, had really bad days and lots of days that were a mix of good and bad. However, with time and lots of love and support things have gotten better. Be there for your friend, invite her to ride (can you borrow a bike?), invite her to lunch, just simply call to say "Hi." If she wants to talk she will if not she will pull the conversation to a close. Right now she simply needs to know someone cares and she needs to stay busy - down, alone time is the her worse enemy.