bcipam posts

"I have often wondered if my mother is not gay.....My parents have been married over 56 years .... but my mother has never liked men (my poor brother was pretty ridiculed growing up and that has scarred him for life). Even with her grandchildren (3 boys, 2 girls) she is pretty offstandish with the boys and absolutely adores the girls. My poor Dad, he just has more patience than anyone I know. Since I was a tom boy, more like my Dad than her, I wasn't particularly like as well."

Sounds like that was tough for all of you. Sorry to hear that.

Being a lesbian at least for me (speaking as I do for all gay people <vbg>) has never been about not likeing guys. It's about loveing women, a whole lot.

Do you know anything about your Mom's childhood? Could she have been abused by a man? Something happened that has turned her off men but that does not necessarily mean she's gay. Sorry that she put some of that on you.