Hi everyone I am new here

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

I suggest you work out a compromise where you two sometimes ride together and sometimes ride on your own. That works well when two people don't ride at the same speed. Think of it as a pleasant thing that adds variety to riding.

[mimitabby]

WElcome to TE! if his finishing time on this event is really important to him, maybe you could find someone else to ride with?
There's a ride that my husband and i did last year... he stayed with me for the ride.. next year he wants to do it alone to see how fast he can finish. And I can really appreciate that.
He shouldn't ALWAYS have to ride at my speed, but then
sometimes, if he wants me to ride with him, he MUST ride my speed, because I'm never going to be as fast as he is..

And then there are tandem bikes

[tulip]

If you can find some other riding buddies, you might find it fun and less stressful.

Or you could get a tandem.

[short cut sally]

Welcome to the board. I don't have much advise for your riding with your partner, other than go at your own pace, make your self comfortable, and ride safe and be happy.