Cycling couple-nutso communication

[shootingstar]

Does he realize that it bothers you that he did these things without discussing it with you?
Did he deliberately avoid discussing it with you or is he just used to doing his own thing?

Don't answer those here, but answer them for yourself. If your independance mostly works for you then that's the important thing, regardless of whether or not the rest of us think it would work for ourselves. From what I've seen of you on here you're pretty independant too. It wouldn't surprise me if there are things you've done without discussing them with him. I don't think either of you would want to end up feeling like you need the other's permission.

I will disclose 2 thing of several things I did without discussing it in advance of pros and cons with him...I got interviewed for a job in the Arctic. Yes, I was flown up to there to Baffin Island.

It shocked him...no I didn't get the job, but would have it accepted..for a few years. But I did investigate while up there, that there was only 1 rd. for cycling ...30 kms. long. The rest is tundra or snow, depending on time of year.

I did get interviewed for a job in California..but was unsuccessful...he was more amenable to the idea of visiting/living with me there vs. Arctic! I did post a photo here in another thread of the Arctic husky dogs...at the edge of town up there.

Geez, imagine what type of lives one could have experienced..if I didn't screw up the interviews. Oh well. Vancouver, BC is pretty good, except..for the relentless rain at times.

seriously..folks...MEET your TE forumites in person. They are not exactly who they are on the Internet...they are more than what they appear to be on the Internet.