Several years ago, my spouse made a major commitment and I found out at a meeting several weeks later. I was the only person that didn't know and I felt like a total fool. It was obvious to the rest of the group because a couple of them apologized later for mentioning it. Try to talk it out now, otherwise you'll have trouble getting past it (or at least I did). It's not something I would ever do to my spouse and it cut deep when it was done to me. Good luck.