Cycling couple-nutso communication

[farrellcollie]

I don't usually discuss my bike purchases with my partner - but she doesn't bike much and we keep separate accounts and share one so as long as it is not out of the joint account - I don't really think to tell her and I don't ask what she does with hers. I would probably buy a car without telling her too (although she would probably know about the car because I obsess over it).

The trip thing would be different for us for some reason. If I planned a trip and did not tell her - she would be really pissed. If she did it, I would just be surprised (more because of the lack of info - I actually like it when she travels without me because I don't particularly like to do it and she does so I don't like holding her back but I don't want to have to do it).

A lot of our friends find ours an oddly independent relationship, but it seems to work for us. A lot of it for me is that I just don't think to tell her things I don't think impact her. It is not so much that I don't want her to know.

It does sound though that in the original situation this was a new and different thing - so I would think talking about it or asking why it had started happening might help.