This is going to be long so hang on...
Overnight I was thinking about it and felt that I didn't really ask good questions about the Dama's fit. The Dama has Ultegra SL which I could definitely appreciate over the Trek's majority 105. I liked the look of the Dama more as well. The prices were pretty close and I really felt the Dama was a better purchase.
I brought the bike home. Haven't ridden it much because I don't have shoes yet but I've done A LOT of sitting on it and I'm pretty much convinced that as-is it is not the bike for me.
Help! Can the Onix fit be salvaged? Should I be thinking of ways to sell it

so I can get the Trek because I feel that the LBS won't be taking it back? Hang it on the wall as expensive art! Egad!