Hubby is mad that I won't ride......

[chicago]

sounds like you need to do two things:

1) tell your husband you don't like being called a b**** just because you don't want to ride
2) tell him to appreciate his wife for who she is... and not who he wants her to be

... and as for the saddle, honestly... if you were really into cycling (and that's perfectly okay that you're not!), you would have found one already that worked. I somehow think the saddle is not the real issue here

[SouthernBelle]

My story wasn't intended to be the answer to all her problems.

& my SO would only call me a ***** once.

[Starfish]

... and as for the saddle, honestly... if you were really into cycling (and that's perfectly okay that you're not!), you would have found one already that worked.

Can't agree here. I love cycling, and have been at it for about 4-5 years now. I'm still dialing in just the right saddle.

SO, don't let the saddle problem discourage you. Its a great sport, so focus on first being able to ride pain free. Then find a peer group that will help you get stronger. Then you will be strong enough to go on rides with DH where he isn't going all out but you'll be able to ride fast enough that he'll still be able to enjoy it.

Great advice!

[Trek420]

Starfish: What I find happens is whenever you find the perfect saddle ... the mfr stops making it or changes the design. My "love at first sit" saddle is no longer made. My LBS found me a great new one yet assures me if I want the one I had before he has 3 stored in a secret climate controlled vault hidden far northern Finland. Thanks Chris.

Triskeliongirl: I favor the policy that "slowest rider gets the best/lightest bike" that way both are happy. Either both have great bikes and faster rider gets a new commuter, cruiser or freewheel so she gets a workout in, or both have great bikes but slower rider gets the dream bike to help him keep up.

Well that's not necessarily true. Her husband isn't the only person out there telling women that fit doesn't matter or that they're just small men, and that attitude isn't unique to bicycling.

Sadly often that's the bike shop, which is why it's so important to find the right one.

It's a nice sunny day, a perfect day for a ride or to get ready for one. Hopefully GG you are out arranging a bike fit and trying out some new saddle choices.

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

I doubt either of them will ever be back here. Frankly, I don't blame them. Yikes.
What a feeding frenzy.

[OakLeaf]

... and as for the saddle, honestly... if you were really into cycling (and that's perfectly okay that you're not!), you would have found one already that worked.

Well that's not necessarily true. Her husband isn't the only person out there telling women that fit doesn't matter or that they're just small men, and that attitude isn't unique to bicycling.

On saddle fit in particular, a lot of people, male or female, just don't know any better. Back in the '80s and '90s I rode for years with open sores on my nether regions. I was really into cycling, but I had no idea that different saddles fit differently or that I was supposed to try them on. When I got my first-generation Terry saddle (cut-out in the frame but not the cover) I thought I'd died and gone to heaven. A couple of years ago when I went on the retreat that sparked my return to cycling, I asked some of the group leaders about my problems with chafing, and not a one of them (experienced female triathletes all) mentioned saddle fit as a potential issue; they just told me about various lubes they used. When I got my new bike last year, I knew I needed a cutout, but that was it. I had no idea about saddle width, nose width, etc., until I started reading this board.

One of the things GeorgiaGirl said is that she really enjoyed riding except for the chafing. I don't see any reason to take the rest of what she said at face value, and not that statement.

[tulip]

I think we scared her away. Hopefully she (they) read the posts.

GG, I hope you get the bike/saddle thing worked out. Please keep checking TE because we are all learning from each other all the time. I hope you can get your own sign-in, though, that's yours alone.