Hubby is mad that I won't ride......

[OakLeaf]

(we are even going to V-day in New Orleans together, any other TE gals going???)

Oh Trisk I am so jealous! Eve Ensler was in the next town last week. I went to hear her speak and even dragged DH out, he was very reluctant to go but afterward he was really glad he went. (and that he wasn't the only male there ) She was fabulous.

/hijack off - nothing really to add to what others have said, just adding my support for GG!

[SadieKate]

GeorigaGirl, just wanted to let you know that I don't read your husband as controlling at all. RoseRyder got it so right -- I've found that hubbys and boyfriends are sometimes the worst teachers out there even if they have your interest at heart. The whole Mars/Venus communication thing is amplified...

This thread does seem to be going off into worries about your relationship when I didn't see that at all. I've got an ex-military officer hubby and he can be an opinionated SOB at times. Thinks he knows everything and will butt into conversations in stores when I'm trying to gather info from the expert, expert NOT being him. I've just learned to kick him in the shins. The man likes to talk but he's durable. 24 years of shin-kicking and he still tries it. Or maybe he's just a slower learner.

Is he controlling? Not at all. Matter of fact, he'll frequently recognize before I when I need to do something on my own, without him, and would never read or post here because he sees it as my space (unless I ask him to). He's incredibly enthusiastic and supportive of me, but can he be an arrogant know-it-all? You bet.

Anyway, just wanted you to know that not all of us think your husband is in anyway detrimentally controlling -- at least from what we've read here. He sounds in many ways like a winner.

Try as many saddles as it takes and a fitting to be sure you have the saddle in the right place on the bike and under your anatomy. And many happy miles together.

[Crankin]

Trisk, I am one who gladly lets my husband do ALL of the mechanical work. I can barely tie my shoes and it's a miracle that I even ride and understand the gearing and can somewhat converse on an intelligent level about the mechanical aspects of cycling. I consider myself a feminist, but I just suck at anything that is mechanical, requires eye hand coordination, or even remembering the steps of how to do something that involves a machine or technology. I would be quite happy with no computers, IPods, cell phones, etc. In fact, I often tell my husband, who is a gadget guru, that I feel like I can't use half the stuff in our house. He always volunteers to show me, but I just get too frustrated, mainly because I think it's not necessary in the first place and I zone out. And believe me, it wasn't that I was brought up to be a shrinking violet. In my family, my mom could do anything mechanical and my dad is worse than me when it comes to this stuff. I know I have a visual perception issue, but I have solved this problem by totally avoiding things that require this ability. I still don't like to ride alone because I live in fear of a mechanical, but I do. I've been to tons of workshops, had other women show me stuff, and it just goes in one ear and out the other. I know that this sounds whiny, but some people, men included, really are bad at this stuff, or just don't like it.