Hubby is mad that I won't ride......

[Trek420]

+1 to that.
Once you get a comfy saddle, go out on your own. Ride where you feel safe. Maybe explore a new neighborhood, choose a destination where you can go have a cup of tea and let your mind relax. You never know what's out there.

I bet there are a few, even many of us in Georgia. If you posted a TE ride that could either be a leisurely ride with TE gals or breaks into groups. Your DH could try to keep up with faster TE gals (and their guys if they bring 'em.)

Ride with other experienced riders, you'll soon catch up with him. Also gives you a chance to really see how others set their bikes up. I've learned a lot here that way.

[Wahine]

When my DH wants to ride with me, he rides with me and my girlfriends and we usually call the shots. As much as I hope that you continue to ride together I think it is really important to interact with other riders as well. It's so great to hear other opinions and perspectives. Oh wait, that's what TE is for.

[shootingstar]

Sounds like Georgia, your DH does alot of cycling on his own, so something can always be worked out so he gets his fast workout on his own and joins you separately on a different ride.

In reading this whole thread, makes me realize how symbiotic my cycling competence and development has evolved in relation to my partner who is stronger cycling-wise..over nearly the past 17 yrs. In fact, I started off knowing him with cycling at the start of our relationship but neither of us never knew that the other had a cycling interest in the lst 6 months of knowing each other.

He is by nature, a patient person. From the beginning, he always went off on his own fitness rides. Then at a different time, he would join up with me for a ride where he had to ride and wait for me along the way. He tried to teach me gearing, but I actually didn't get it in my head...until I joined a women's cycling group.

By nature, both he and I are, each friendly hermits. We like to each do our own thing, but like to share doing other shared actitivities also. From the beginning of returning to cycling (31), I always enjoyed doing some solo rides....after he showed me on bike, cycling routes that I wanted to do on my own if he wasn't around to be with me due to our personal schedules.

I've had my flats, etc. and no, am not the most mechanical ...even after attending women's workshops on fixing bike flats, etc...so I have accepted responsibility for myself when this happens when I'm alone on bike and just....walk home or throw the bike onto bus or subway homeward. We don't have a car, so I can't phone him to pick me up. That's ok. I've lived a car-free life for so long even before him. I use bike shops for repairs that he doesn't feel well-versed on certain problems.

I don't depend on him for cycling...after all, he and I lived in 2 different cities for 2.5 years of our relationship when he was forced to relocated. Each of us continued to cycle solo...and every evening we phoned each other...to also include our cycling adventures of the day.

Become strong on the bike yourself...it will carry you far as life moves ahead, changes and you will enjoy riding more with others who have different/better cycling competencies in group rides.

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

Had a nice ride this morning. Glad it's Spring and the roads are dry and the sun is shining. Good to be able to ride my bike.

[Running Mommy]

Didn't have time to read through all the threads, but there are saddle test programs out there.
WTB
Terry
Selle Italia
all have test saddle programs. You go into the shop, pick one out, take er home and try er out, and swap around until you find a prince in the sea of frogs.
Our shop currently has the WTB one, but as soon as the Terry Selle programs come back into stock, we will have them.
So see if you can find a shop that has one of the programs. I'm thinking Terry might work for you.
good luck!
Denise

[Bad JuJu]

I bet there are a few, even many of us in Georgia. If you posted a TE ride that could either be a leisurely ride with TE gals or breaks into groups. Your DH could try to keep up with faster TE gals (and their guys if they bring 'em.)

Ride with other experienced riders, you'll soon catch up with him. Also gives you a chance to really see how others set their bikes up. I've learned a lot here that way.

This is a great idea. But even if there are no TE riders near you, you could post a note at your LBS that you're looking for some other women to ride with occasionally. Or, since you're at Ft. Benning, is your DH in the army? If so, there must be some kind of spouse's club--maybe you could get one or two out of that group interested in riding with you.

Sure it's great riding with your guy, but it's also helpful--and fun--to get involved with other riding buddies, especially other women. They're out there--just may take some hunting to find them.

[Trek420]

Sure it's great riding with your guy, but it's also helpful--and fun--to get involved with other riding buddies, especially other women. They're out there--just may take some hunting to find them.

The one thing I dislike about cycling (besides that most events start too fracking early in the morning ) is the whole matching thang of the sport layering into cultures of different speeds/distances.

I ride ___ mph and prefer 30 mile rides, s/he rides ___ mph and isn't warmed up till 40 miles, this one sprints so vertical s/he'll fall over backwards, that one hates climbing .... so none of us can ever ride together, right? Wrong. Though sometimes it's hard for even the most devoted supportive symbiotic gently shin kicking of partners and friends to ride together it can be done.

While there are a few couples on this board who ride each others pace I think most also ride alone and/or with other groups. Some TE'ers SO's don't even ride whether because they can't or don't want to. This isn't out of being any less close to the other, sometimes you just find good ride buddies who ride your pace.

One should always be able to find creative ways to share the sport and be supportive of one another. That may mean preparation for the ride, starting and ending together, the faster rider gets to ride the freewheel mixte while slower rider takes the road bike TE gal preps the bike while your guy preps the recovery meal, or even just talking about your latest epic ride and planning the next one.

I have few regrets in life but one is that I never got to ride with my cousin's fiance Kathy who died in a bike crash. The rides I do, too slow for them, the rides they did ... out of my league, Terrible Two, Davis Double ... stuff I can't even imagine. First time I rode with my cousin was her memorial.

My cousin and I have made a point to do some rides together since. Yeah he rides up and down and back up Old Tunnel Road in the time I do it once ... but I'm out there with him.

Life's short, find a way to ride together.