Hubby is mad that I won't ride......

[Kalidurga]

I'll second Zen's suggestion. Maybe find some women to ride with until you've gained more experience. That way, know-it-all hubby might see you making the effort to get into cycling, and you'll be in a less intimidating atmosphere in which to ask questions and learn.

[gnat23]

It wasn't until I got the proper saddle that I realized that I could ride my bike *and* have sex (not at the same time, of course, silly). I mean, that I didn't have to decide between enjoying one or the other.

I'm usually don't advocate withholding sex from a significant other to get what you want, but you probably have a pretty good case in order to get the proper saddle for this one. If it hoits, it hoits. And that's that.

-- gnat!

[Wahine]

Gnat beat me to it. I am firmly against with holding sex (mostly because I would suffer more) but I have used that line when justifying a new saddle purchase or fit adjustment. And not because I'm being manipulative but because I simply could not tolerate sex because of chaffing and pain. One thing I can say for sure is that he stops bugging me about spending money on a saddle when I bring the topic up.

[Starfish]

So, your hubby posts here on TE? What, pray tell, is his user name?

And, +1 here to so many things already mentioned: bike fit, new saddle, etc. You do not need a controlling husband's permission to go try out as many saddles as it takes to find the right one for you.

[mimitabby]

So, your hubby posts here on TE? What, pray tell, is his user name?

And, +1 here to so many things already mentioned: bike fit, new saddle, etc. You do not need a controlling husband's permission to go try out as many saddles as it takes to find the right one for you.

finally someone asks the question we all want to know!!


btw, Welcome to TE! as you can see, we're a lively bunch filled with great ideas and experience, and we're on YOUR side.

[Starfish]

"Thanks julie once the computer gets fixed ill show her. also thanks Eden, I use looks and have always used them but i was wondering if theres are some pedals that are easier to get in and out of as far as shoes sounds like mountain bike will work for her. and the speed plays look easier . just trying to make everything comfortable for her so she wont wanna quit"

OK, so this is a cut and paste from GeorgiaGirl's hubby when he was asking about which pedals might be best.

So...there isn't much more important than not having one's clitoris or other genitalia screaming in pain while riding, to promote sticking with cycling.

[mimitabby]

OH, he posted using HER user name.

[Kalidurga]

"Thanks julie once the computer gets fixed ill show her. also thanks Eden, I use looks and have always used them but i was wondering if theres are some pedals that are easier to get in and out of as far as shoes sounds like mountain bike will work for her. and the speed plays look easier . just trying to make everything comfortable for her so she wont wanna quit"

OK, so this is a cut and paste from GeorgiaGirl's hubby when he was asking about which pedals might be best.

So...there isn't much more important than not having one's clitoris or other genitalia screaming in pain while riding, to promote sticking with cycling.

And here I go again with the blasphemy...

While I am totally addicted to cycling, and I can understand wanting to share what you love with your partner, hubby needs to understand that not everyone shares our love of this activity. It's very admirable that he's trying so hard to make things comfortable for her, but he has to also allow the option for her to quit if she chooses to. Maybe I'm reading too much into that little snippet above, but making someone feel as if they have to enjoy your favorite activity is a potential recipe for disaster.

GeorgiaGirl, you've gotta decide for yourself whether or not cycling's something you want to do. If it is, then you've gotten some great advice here to help you get going.