I am the same, it is not a race for me and I was having a hard time riding with hubby because he's all about the distance, the avg speed and the GPS. I'd rather meander, watch the wildlife and just enjoy myself. I finally told him he can ride fast, long and hard with his buddies, but if he and I are going to ride then its at my pace and that seems to have relieved so much stress I was having. I can climb hills I walked last year, go longer distances and I don't feel like I'm going to die when I get home.