BF and I have a (usually) nightly ritual. After dinner, we make a drink, retreat to the living room, and read the paper together. He sits on the sofa, I sprawl on it, leaning heavily against his arm/shoulder. We read different sections, but talk about what we're reading with each other (and he makes fun of me for my complete inability to refold a newspaper at all neatly). It's a good way to destress from a long day, we learn something about what's going on in the world (I know not everyone is a fan of the NYT, but you have to admit that there's a whole lotta stuff in there), and we get some bonding time in a very low-key way. It's nice.

Would it take all the fun out of it for him if you wired up the house, at his direction?

How about making a date to take a walk outside together once a day? Sort of a ritual?

Good luck!!!!!!!