question for the wounded...

[Wahine]

BB, is your DH still doing gym work where he can? It's true that the endorphins help, and I've also read that any exercises done with the good side have a 30% (or something like that) to the broken side. Can anyone say one-legged squats?

There is very good research to support the use of exercise on the uninjured side to help increase strength on the injured side. It's a neurological thing. It works.

Limited weight bearing is a really tough place to be. It's makes a person feel very disabled and gimpy. It would be abnormal for him not to be depressed. Can he ask his MD's office if he can ride a stationary bike with little to no resistance? That is often an allowed activity before full WB is cleared.

I also support the loving touches etc. Very important for a man because he will feel less manly since he can't do his usual manly things around the house etc.

Massage is great. You can even get some massage therapists to come to the house.

Hope that helps.

[VeloVT]

BF and I have a (usually) nightly ritual. After dinner, we make a drink, retreat to the living room, and read the paper together. He sits on the sofa, I sprawl on it, leaning heavily against his arm/shoulder. We read different sections, but talk about what we're reading with each other (and he makes fun of me for my complete inability to refold a newspaper at all neatly). It's a good way to destress from a long day, we learn something about what's going on in the world (I know not everyone is a fan of the NYT, but you have to admit that there's a whole lotta stuff in there), and we get some bonding time in a very low-key way. It's nice.

Would it take all the fun out of it for him if you wired up the house, at his direction?

How about making a date to take a walk outside together once a day? Sort of a ritual?

Good luck!!!!!!!

[tulip]

Take him to Jack of the Wood and sit him down with a big beer and tell him you love him. Then his buddies show up (because you planned it that way) and everyone has a fun time. Better if there's a bluegrass band playing that night. You drive so he can imbibe a bit (if he likes that, of course).

Also, what everyone else suggested are all good ideas, too.

My SO surprised me once by saying that he just wanted me to pay more attention to him. I thought I was getting in his way. I was happy to oblige.

[Blueberry]

Ohhh..Jack of the Wood....and the Laughing Seed....I *really* need a trip to Asheville soon

[tulip]

Ohhh..Jack of the Wood....and the Laughing Seed....I *really* need a trip to Asheville soon

I see a TE Asheville trip coming on... Bouncy??

[bouncybouncy]

Such great advice!!!! I knew I could count on you gals...and, YES, let me know when your are in Asheville!!!!


***btw: We do not drink (it is a personal issue) so I have no problems with others doing so...and have no issues hangin' with those who do!!! but...Jack provides plenty of options and the music is superb!!! not to mention the lack of smoke in the air...gotta love it!!!!

[Blueberry]

And I'm (finally) getting my trip to Asheville! Yay!!! Biking, hiking and enjoying the leaves. And fall weather just in time. Anybody want to get together?? Anybody have *not too hard* riding suggestions (we're relative flat-landers, and we're both just over colds/flu).

CA