i don't ride with a club either because i like to go at my own pace. in most cases, club rides are great, but you get dropped. i hate that. just because i am not as fast, doesn't mean i am not working hard.

this is how i see it: you have to feed yourself and take care of yourself before you can take care of others. go for your ride. no one is saying your son isn't important, but the fact is, you are his caretaker, and you are the most important. RIDE, RIDE, RIDE. and then ride some more.